Intimate Relations: Exploring Indian Sexuality MOBI
I am not used to reading this kind of book, so I have nothing to compare it to It is a book about the sexual behavior of Indians and how males and females relate to each other in India Kakkar tries to explain why there is a natural sense of rivalry between Indian males and females, why tiltating rape scenes are common in Indian movies and why domestic violent is prevalent in India He uses stories from Hindu mythology, Indian non English fiction and folklore to understand the Indian psyche especially with regard to male female relationships and sex The best part of the book is Kakkar s analysis of Gandhi s sex life which Gandhi explained in great detail in his books and letters I found Intimate Relations to be very interesting though some of the analysis seemed to me like intellectual mumbo jumbo But like I said, I am not used to reading this kind of book. Pretty interesting book I can imagine that it must have been shocking in the 90s, when it was first published I d love to see an updated version, especially focused on the educated urban Indian population One criticism is that the Freudian analysis of myth stories sexuality seems a bit dated. Interesting A worth knowing interpretation of various forms of Indian narratives Succinctly written. It is indeed an extra ordinary work It is anthropological psychological study about Indian sexuality and intimate relationships It was a good read but not a quick one as it is thought provoking The chapter Gandhi and Women made me look back at my notes on Gandhi and his sexuality Another chapter Husband and others takes you to the slums of Delhi and self narratives of Janak and Basanti is insightful I will give it a four star. Offered me a compelling rethinking of gender relations in the Indian context It is a therapy in the form of a book A must read for anyone who has wants to delve in the mystical realms of intimate desires erotic fantasies, which are ever elusive and convoluted as our small intestines are Plumbing the hearts of women and men in India and exploring the relations they engage in, Sudhir Kakar gives us the first full length study of Indian sexuality His groundbreaking work explores India s sexual fantasies and ideals, the unlit stage of desire where so much of our inner theater takes place Kakar s sources are primarily textual, celebrating the primacy of the story in Indian life He practices a cultural psychology that distills the psyches of individuals from the literary products and social institutions of Indian culture These include examples of lurid contemporary Hindi novels folktales Sanskrit, Tamil, and Hindi proverbs hits of the Indian cinema Gandhi s autobiography interviews with women from the slums of Delhi and case studies from his own psychoanalytic practice His attentive readings of these varied narratives from a vivid portrait of sexual fantasies and realities, reflecting the universality of sexuality as well as cultural nuances specific to India.Moving from genre to genre, Kakar offers a brilliant reading of verses from the Laws of Manu, the original source of Hindu religious laws, to uncover their psychological foundations male terror of the female sexual appetite that shields itself by idealizing women s maternal role Kakar also examines the psychosexual history of Gandhi at length, though his near lifelong celibacy makes him an atypical subject Gandhi s story is universal, Kakar says, because we all wage war on our wants In India s lore and tradition, complex symbols abound snakes that take the shape of sensual women or handsome men, celibates sleep with naked women, gods rape their daughters, and a goddess fries a king in oil With the analyst s third ear, Kakar listens, decodes, and translates the psychological longings that find expression in Indian sexual relations.